In today’s episode of Transition Guy from Necker Island, we will be talking about what defines us in life and business. Most of us, a huge proportion of entrepreneurs, come from a place of adversity and a lot of people say, “Well things are not fair. This is not fair.” Reality is this. Everyone says, “Well, I’m defined by where I’m from. What my beginnings are like.”
My guest in this episode is Byron Nelson, a great example where you are not defined by where you have been born and where you have been raised but defined by your journey. A great visionary, one who believes that anything is possible even when you have nothing, an extraordinary coach who operates at a totally different level, a professional speaker and transitioned into being a thought leader.
Byron has an interesting story. His family was like the old sitcom “The Jefferson”. They just kept moving up. At a young age, he was exposed to a war zone environment. He was blessed with great parents and was put into a good private “white” school in Compton. But what he had was a challenging journey. To others he was a white black guy, an “oreo”, so he ended up fighting. He was forced into being an introvert.
At such a young age, he was always curious. He can relate to the book “Curious George” for he was always by himself or off wandering looking for things and seeking things. There was an instance in school, when he needed a costume. Because they didn’t have any money and couldn’t afford a costume, her mother pulled out all the leaves off their avocado tree, brought him green stockings and made him a Peter Pan outfit. He came in first place in school.
That became his first turning point – to believe that anything is possible when you have nothing.
Another eye opener for him was when his father handed him the “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. It’s one of the classics in law of attraction. He was also given a VHS tape that said “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. Each of this opened up his mind for what is possible. He started to dream and started to have visions. He began seeking out extraordinary people to surround himself with. It stretched his mind and eyesight to see what’s possible. That led him to the entertainment industry. That evolved him into becoming an instrument for amazing artists. The evolution of where that came from is as he got past thinking “Grow Rich”, and got past “Strangest Secret in the World”, he became thirsty. He became famished for self-empowerment, for growth, for transformation.
I think that’s the biggest thing for entrepreneurs is that they go into business with a dream and somewhere down the line, they lose that dream, they don’t have that vision, and they just end up going through the motions.
It was also priceless to understand not get caught in stuff we won’t place. We should learn how to delegate in order to take advantage of the things that are most important such as family, health, peace and balance. Learn how to trust. It is very common in business owners and entrepreneurs. They believe that nobody else out there is better than them.
The reality is that you haven’t found that person that is better than you, but with seven billion people on the planet, there are plenty of people to choose from.
Byron also shared with me the “Compound Effect”. To let go and learn how to leverage. It’s about little things evolving over a long period of time. It is understanding one step at a time, one inch at a time, in a world where everybody is looking for a quantum leap. Things just compound and they take on a tidal wave and a tsunami when you least expect it if you just keep doing the little things consistently and not become incarcerated to your own thought process.
What’s interesting is that once you experience success, you can have success at many different levels. The top athletes out there, a great example was Usain Bolt, the fastest man in the world, never really played football, has a passion for football, could easily play in the top team because he has that natural ability for sports.
What I find that’s probably the greatest restriction that entrepreneurs have is that they’re phenomenal technicians in their business, but they don’t learn, they just earn. Most are busy being broke.
As Byron says, that plays into the cliché of “Most are busy being broke”. They’re busy being broke and broke is on so many different levels because money is relative. We’re not talking about money. They’re broke with their family, and they’re broke with their social, they’re broke with their health, they’re broke with their emotions. They’re constantly running around, but they have the title, the cars, the houses, and all of the materialistic stuff you can’t take with you when you die, but they don’t have this. They don’t have a lifestyle of legacy.
In order to get that lifestyle of legacy, you really got to have a balance in your life. It’s got to be over many different areas. It’s got to be a mixture of health and spirituality. You’ve got to have some money. One thing I’ve noticed with other people on the island with us is that they’re very physically fit.
As far as the advice I can give to all the people who have tuned into today’s episode is really, you need to make a conscious decision. If you really want to become the entrepreneur that does great things, you first need to learn to become great. We all have greatness inside of us, right?
Be the leader. Be the example that people want to follow.
My take away today for everybody is this, no matter what your background is, your past doesn’t have to be your anchor. Your past is not your journey.
What we’ve seen with Byron is and all fairness, he has come from some of the shittiest parts of the US, yet today he has put himself in the position where he’s mixing with people like Robin Sharma, Simon Sinek. These people are on the top of their game. These people advise governments and Byron’s mixing with those people.
So you’ve got to make a choice. Where do you want to be with your business? What kind of business do you want to grow? What kind of legacy do you want to leave? Ultimately, what are you prepared to do in order to make that happen?
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